Human Behavior · Relationships · Performance
Understand what drives you.
Change what doesn’t.
Jason VanRuler helps people, couples, leaders and teams uncover the hidden patterns shaping how they communicate, connect and perform, so they can choose what happens next.
Bestselling Author · TEDx Speaker · Human Behavior Expert · Creator of the PATHS Communication Model
As Seen In
Speaker Reel
90 seconds in the room with Jason.
Want the full talk? Watch the TEDx talk on YouTube.
Work · Home · Future
Different rooms. Same human behavior.
Jason’s work is built around a simple idea: the same person goes to work and goes home. The patterns shaping how we communicate with a spouse are often the same patterns showing up with our teams. The need for approval driving achievement doesn’t disappear after work. And as AI changes what we’re capable of doing, understanding what makes us distinctly human matters more than ever.
Leadership & Performance
Understand the patterns driving performance, communication, culture and burnout.
Explore corporate keynotes →Marriage & Relationships
Build stronger relationships by understanding how we communicate, connect, repair and grow together.
Explore marriage & relationship events →AI & Being Human
As technology gets better at doing, the human advantage becomes judgment, connection, trust and meaning.
Explore AI & human performance →The Big Idea
We keep telling driven people to slow down.
Maybe that’s the wrong advice.
You don’t buy a Porsche because you want it to go slow. You want it to go fast without destroying the engine. Jason’s work isn’t about working less. It’s about removing the patterns creating unnecessary drag.
Some of the patterns that need changing aren’t making you unsuccessful. They’re making you successful at a cost you no longer want to pay.
The Flagship Keynote
Stop Chasing.
Start Choosing.
Understand what’s driving you and choose what happens next.
Driven people rarely have a discipline problem. They have a pattern problem: a set of learned behaviors that built the career and are now quietly taxing the leader, the team, and the marriage. Jason names those patterns, explains where they came from, and gives audiences a way to trade them without giving up ambition. Delivered in versions for leadership and high performance, marriage and relationships, or faith and men’s events.
The Keynotes
Three doors in. One body of work.
Stop Chasing. Start Choosing.
Understand what's driving you and choose what happens next.
Best for: leadership, sales, entrepreneurs, high performers, men's events and faith audiences.
Check availability →Discovering Your Communication Type
Why people hear you differently and how to finally connect.
Powered by the PATHS Communication Model. Best for: organizations, teams, couples, churches and marriage events.
Check availability →More Human
The skills that matter more in the age of AI.
AI is changing what humans need to do. Jason explores who humans need to become, why communication, judgment, trust and genuine connection are competitive advantages, not soft skills. Best for: leadership conferences, associations and future-of-work programs.
Check availability →What Happens to Your People
Not a nice talk. Behavior that changes Monday.
Recognize the patterns
Your people leave able to name the hidden patterns influencing how they communicate, lead and perform, in themselves and in the room.
Separate what works from what costs
They understand which patterns contributed to their success and which ones are now quietly charging interest.
Choose differently on Monday
They walk out with more intentional ways of working, relating and leading, without sacrificing ambition or performance.
The Second Big Idea
We don’t all hear the same words the same way.
Jason’s five communication types, the PATHS Communication Model, help people understand why the same conversation can create connection for one person and conflict for another. It gives your audience shared language they’re still using months after the event.
Peacemaker
Keeps the room steady, and can bury the real issue to do it.
Advocate
Pushes hard for what's right; heat reads as conflict.
Thinker
Needs data before movement; silence reads as disengagement.
Harbor
Absorbs everyone else's pressure until it quietly costs them.
Spark
Brings energy and momentum; can outrun the team's clarity.
At Work
Communicate, lead and collaborate better.
At Home
Understand your partner and stop repeating the same fights.
Under Pressure
Recognize what happens to your communication when the stakes rise.
What Event Organizers Say
Real reactions, real rooms.
I know that what Jason speaks about will hit home for you just like it did for me.
Thank you so much for speaking! I heard great feedback from the talk and people are still discussing what you said about communication and their communication type. We will see you next year!
A quarter-million people follow Jason's take on behavior, performance and leadership, and the rooms he speaks in feel that reach.
For Marriage & Relationship Events
Better relationships start when we understand what’s actually happening between us.
Jason brings 15 years of relationship expertise, clinical experience, humor and practical tools to marriage conferences, couples retreats and faith-based events. Audiences learn how their stories and communication patterns shape the way they love and leave with practical ways to reconnect, repair and build something better together.
Bring Jason to Your Event →- Understand each other.
- Repair what's disconnected.
- Choose what you're building together.
From the Pulpit
Watch Jason preach.
The same insight Jason brings to corporate stages and marriage conferences shows up in the pulpit. Here is a recent sermon where the patterns behind how we live, love and lead meet faith.
Want to share it? Open the sermon on YouTube.
Reach That Works For You
Ideas that work beyond the ballroom.
Jason’s practical insights on relationships, communication and human behavior reach more than 250,000 people online, giving event organizers a speaker whose message can build engagement before the event and keep going after it.
Pre-event promo video
Jason invites your audience before the doors open.
Event-specific social content
Content built around your theme and your dates.
Books & attendee engagement
Signings, bundles and follow-up your audience keeps.
Who This Is Built For
The same person goes to work and goes home.
The patterns driving a leader in the boardroom don’t disappear when they walk through their front door. That’s why Jason works equally well in front of a sales organization, an executive team, or a room full of couples. It’s the same psychology, aimed at a different outcome.
- Leadership & executive summits
- Sales kickoffs and high-performance cultures
- Financial services & professional firms
- Entrepreneur and founder events
- Company all-hands and offsites
- Marriage conferences, couples retreats & men's events
Ways to Work Together
Built to fit your agenda.
Keynote
45–60 minutes, fully customized to your room and your theme.
Half-Day Workshop
Hands-on PATHS training for leadership teams and staff.
Fireside / Panel
Moderated conversation or Q&A for intimate, high-trust rooms.
Virtual
Broadcast-quality remote sessions for distributed teams.
For Event Planners
The easiest speaker on your run-of-show.
A pre-event call
Jason interviews your team so the talk lands in your language, not a template.
Promo kit
Headshots, bio, title & description, social graphics, and an intro script.
Simple AV needs
Handheld or lav, confidence monitor, slides optional. Easy day-of for your crew.
Books & add-ons
Signed-book bundles, breakout sessions, and meet-and-greets available.
Meet Jason
15 years studying what drives human behavior.
Jason VanRuler has spent more than fifteen years studying what drives human behavior, from therapy rooms and executive offices to prisons, interventions, and some of the biggest stages in the country.
A bestselling author, psychotherapist, entrepreneur, and creator of the PATHS Communication Model, Jason has helped thousands of people understand the patterns shaping how they lead, communicate, perform and connect. His work has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes and SiriusXM, and his ideas reach audiences through TEDx, national media, corporate stages, 250,000+ social followers, and his bestselling books.
Jason doesn’t just teach people what to do differently. He helps them understand why they do what they do in the first place.
What Happens Next
Booking Jason is simple.
Send the details
Date, audience, and what you need the talk to do.
A short call
Jason learns your room so the keynote isn't off the shelf.
Show up ready
Custom talk, promo assets, and an easy day-of for your team.
Before You Ask
Questions planners ask first.
What is Jason's speaking fee?+
Fees vary by format, location, and date. Send your details and you'll get a clear range in the first reply. No discovery-call gatekeeping.
Can the keynote be customized to our theme?+
Always. Stop Chasing. Start Choosing. is built on the PATHS model, then shaped around your audience, your theme, and the outcome you need from the session.
What makes Jason's approach different?+
Jason combines more than 15 years studying human behavior with the experience of an entrepreneur, bestselling author and speaker. His keynotes go beneath surface-level tactics to help audiences understand the patterns driving how they perform, communicate and connect, then give them practical ways to choose differently.
Does this work for a sales or executive audience?+
Especially. The message isn't 'work less.' It's removing the patterns creating unnecessary drag. It lands hardest with ambitious rooms that don't want to be told to slow down.
Do you travel?+
Yes, domestic and international. Travel is billed at cost or as a flat rate agreed up front.
How far ahead should we book?+
Most events book 3–9 months out, but last-minute dates open up. Ask. A courtesy hold on your date costs nothing.
Check Availability
Let’s build the talk your room needs.
Share a few details and Jason’s team follows up within 24 hours with dates, fee range, and a customization plan in one reply.
- ✓A reply within 24 hours, often same day
- ✓Straight answer on fee range and travel, no back-and-forth
- ✓Courtesy hold on your date while you decide
- ✓A short call before you commit, no obligation
- ✓Promo kit, AV rider, and intro script sent on booking